Do you and your partner struggle to talk about your relationship needs or have repetitive conflicts that go unresolved?
Are you feeling discouraged, disillusioned or defeated?
You don't have to face this alone. Couples counselling can help.
We offer two options for couples counselling:
Traditional Couples Therapy
65-minute sessions booked weekly, bi-weekly, or as needed.
Ideal for couples facing non-urgent situations, seeking greater intimacy or effective communication skills.
Couples Therapy Intensives
Two 4-hour sessions booked within approximately one week, plus a 1-hour follow up session.
Ideal for couples wanting to do a deep dive into relationship enrichment or facing an urgent situation, such as preventing a divorce or recovering from infidelity.
The process of creating a healthy, mutually-satisfying relationship is never easy.
If you are struggling in your relationship, take heart!
While the early stages of a romance are exciting with each partner eager to meet the other's needs, it is normal at some point in the relationship for a couple to develop an "unmet needs" problem, where one or both partners sense that an important relationship need is not being met.
If you are experiencing conflict in your relationship, it's completely normal and the result of two people having two different needs at the same time. For example, one partner might be seeking comfort through connection or intimacy, but the other partner needs space.
When trying to express needs, couples often get into damaging cycles of criticizing, blaming and arguing. This leads to hurt, withdrawing, and disconnection.
But it doesn't have to be this way.
Reignite the passion in your relationship, emotionally and sexually.
Improve communication, heal broken bonds and start moving forward.
Transform your relationship and get excited about a new future together.
Create The Relationship You've Always Wanted
We're here to help you create a lasting, secure and happy relationship.
The worst feeling in a relationship is the sense that your partner doesn't care about your needs, for example your need for connection, support or respect. Thankfully this feeling is usually a misperception, not the reality.
At any stage in a relationship - dating, marriage preparation, post-honeymoon and beyond - it is crucial that even if your needs aren't always met, you know that your partner cares about them. Many couples struggle to hear each other, become critical, defensive or withdrawn, and end up feeling hurt, misunderstood and frustrated.
When we meet together, our main goal will be to learn how to identify and communicate relationship needs that help each of you feel seen, heard and valued.
We will work hard but have some fun along the way, as we practice simple skills to help you and your partner:
Identify and Address Unmet Needs
Settle Unresolved Conflicts
Increase Intimacy and Connection
Work as a Team
Experience Fairness and Equality
Our trained couples therapists at Abma Counselling can help you to resolve your current challenges, relieve stress, and create a more meaningful and loving relationship.
Make it your goal to create a marriage that feels like the safest place on Earth.